An identity beyond the dress.
Updated: Dec 12, 2022
There was a time when I thought that wearing a beautiful dress could make you more feminine.
I was wrong.
Femininity is a gift, and no dress—no matter how beautiful—can give a woman her identity.
Our femininity is rooted in something much deeper—it’s anchored in who we are, Whose we are, and who we were created to be. This is the mystery that shapes who we are as women.
The culture we live in today too often strips femininity of its substance and reduces it to something you can buy, put on, or physically alter to achieve.
But that's the beauty of femininity—it cannot be bought or created.
Your clothes cannot MAKE you any more feminine than you already ARE. The only thing they can do is become a means of expressing, and making visible an invisible reality. A beautiful dress cannot make you feminine, but it can illuminate the inherent femininity that’s already woven into every fibre of your being.
That's why how we express our feminine identity matters, because it has the power to either communicate its depth and dignity, or distort and detract from it. Choosing attire that reduces us merely to our physical attributes fails to tell the whole story—it leaves out the most fascinating chapters about our substance, and the myriad of traits that are woven into the very fabric of our femininity.
So cherish it—adorn it in a way deserving of its distinction. I've only recently come to truly appreciate my femininity and to intentionally dress in a way that honours it by wearing dresses on a nearly daily basis. And when I do, I find that my demeanour softens, and I carry myself with a just a little more grace. Maybe I'm biased, but my dresses have become my superhero capes of sorts that remind me daily of the depth, mystery and beauty of my feminine identity.